How To Choose & Use a Dildo: Your Complete Guide

How To Choose & Use a Dildo: Your Complete Guide

Ah, the dildo. This humble sex toy can summon hours of fun — or minutes if you're a quick sploosher. Regardless of how much time you spend plowing your holes, though, there's no denying that the almighty dildo is amazing

Of course, no two dildos are exactly alike, and with so many options, you may find it difficult to pick one. If you're new to DIY play, learning how to use a dildo can also be a struggle. 

Not to worry, friends — Simpli Pleasures is here to the rescue. 

In this post, we're diving into the deliciously erotic world of sex toys to uncover all there is to know about choosing — and using — a dildo. So if you're looking to shake up your routine and take a ride on the wild side (or a dildo), keep reading. 

Here’s What You Need To Know About Dildos

First things first, what's a dildo?

In short, a dildo can be described as an adult sex toy that is mostly phallic in appearance (meaning it resembles a cock) and used solely for the aim of sexual pleasure, penetration, and other fun sexytime activities. They can be used vaginally, anally, orally, and — if they vibrate — externally, too. 

What Do Dildos Look Like?

If you've never seen a dildo, we'll be the first to tell you that they don't all look like your average cock as they come in many different sizes, shapes, and colors. 

These popular sex toys are often modeled after the shape and size of an erect cock, with some featuring a bulbous head and lifelike balls or protruding veins along the shaft. Yumm

But, of course, if you'd prefer to get banged by a tentacle cock or even a hot pink jelly dong, there's definitely a dildo out there for you.

Icicles No. 24 Crystal Jellies® 8 Inch Classic Dong

You can even satisfy your fantasies with our Two Shafts One Hole Dildo or one that literally squirts and ejaculates on command, thanks to the creamy cum-like “Nut Butter!"

Two Shafts One Hole Bust It Squirting Realistic C—ck 

The bottom line here is that the world is full of dildos. Some look like cocks, and others resemble alien, monster, and fantasy creature dicks. 

They can be black, pink, neon green, or even purple polka-dotted. In other words, the sky's the limit with what a dildo can look like. So if you're someone who doesn't necessarily want a penis-y item inside of you, you're in luck. 

Any Benefits To Getting Jiggy With a Dildo?

You betcha. Whether you're inviting your partner into the fun or saving it all for yourself, there are many steamy benefits to using sex toys like dildos and vibrators — here are some of them:

Better Sex Life

Although you don't necessarily need dildos to have an incredible sex life, they can definitely help. But don't just take our word for it; folks who have used sex toys often report being more satisfied with their sex life across all metrics, including quality of orgasm and masturbation. 

Plus, the more you explore your body and experiment with toys, the more likely you are to know how to get yourself off — whether you're playing solo or with a partner.

Boosts Body Confidence

When you know the ins and outs of your body (literally), you develop a much deeper appreciation for it that manifests into better self-confidence.

The human body is an incredible work of art— the fact that the clit exists primarily for pleasure is extraordinary. That said, sex toys aren't just good for the body but also for the mind and soul. And when the mind, body, and soul are feeling good, you'll exude confidence without even trying. 

Improves Sleep Quality

Everyone knows that sleep is essential to good health. It strengthens the immune system, promotes healthy cognition, and most importantly, keeps us from being bleary-eyed zombies in the a.m. 

What you might not of known, however, is that sex toys can support quality sleep since they can help us reach that oh-so-glorious O sooner rather than later. You see, the deed releases feel-good hormones like oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins, which are known to induce a feeling of calm. Because of this, we get to snooze better. 

So if a dreamy night with the Sandman is what you're after, get yourself a good dildo like the Simpli Pleasure G-spot Vibrator! With a sensually curvy form, this vibe is easy to use and enhances inner stimulation for incredible Os all night long. What's not to love? 

SIMPLI G-Spot 01

Reduces Stress

Believe it or not, an orgasm can improve your mental health and happiness. Yup, it's true — according to a study from the University of Rome Tor Vergata, researchers found that those who were sexually active during the COVID-19 lockdown, compared to those who weren't, experienced lower anxiety and depression scores thanks to those wonderful mood-boosting hormones like oxytocin and serotonin. 

While a dildo can't magically make your stress disappear, it can boost these feel-good hormones contributing to feeling less stressed and more positive. 

Hot Tip: Feelin' stressed at the office? Need a little pick-me-up? Skip the afternoon cup of Joe and take a minute (or five) to make yourself O with Simpli Pleasures' Vibrating Lipstick. Chic, discreet, and portable for fun on the go. What could be better?

Screaming O My Secret Screaming O Vibrating Lipstick

Combats Low Libido

Are you getting bored of the same rigmarole to reach climax? Longing for a more exhilarating, toe-curling sex life? All you need is a little help! 

Using sex toys like dildos and vibrators can combat low libido by improving blood flow, elasticity, and wetness down under. All of these make sex feel amazing, and in turn, it'll heighten your sex drive to crave more and more (and more) of it. 

Hot Tip: Sometimes, pussy owners with low libidos find themselves drier than the Sahara Desert when their hoo-has should be a slip N slide. Don't let vaginal dryness rain on your sex parade — opt for an orgasm-intensifying lube like our Wicked Awaken Clitoral Arousal Gel!

Wicked Awaken

How Do I Choose the Right Dildo for Maximum Os?

Ready to buy a dildo? The first step is to consider exactly what you want to use your new sex toy for and what features you want it to have before making a purchase. 

Want To Use It for Butt Stuff?

It needs to have a base. We'll repeat that again for the folks in the back: if you want to take your butt to pound town via a dildo, it needs to have a wider base than the thickest part of the sex toy. 

Why? Because the booty hole doesn't have a point of no return the way the pussy does, so you need something to keep it anchored outside the body. 

Fancy Somethin' Realistic?

A cock can be an incredibly erotic symbol for some folks. And then others feel penetration by a realistic-looking dildo is super affirming for their sexual orientation or gender identity. 

A lifelike dildo with the full package (think bulge, creases, and veins) is a godsend for these individuals. 

That said, if you want something different or a little less penis-y, you have many fun options to consider. For instance, did you know that you could f*** yourself with dildos shaped like swords, sasquatches, or even unicorn horns? 

Yup, the dildo options are endless; if you ask us, they're only getting better every year. 

Interested in Catching Vibes?

Vibrating dildos aren't for everyone, but if you enjoy the toe-curling, eye-rolling, hair-raising vibes you can only catch from your handy-dandy vibrator, you should consider a vibrating dildo like the Simpli Pleasure Dildo Vibrator

SIMPLI Vibrating G-Spot 02

It's loaded with seven arousing and customizable vibration modes for maximum pleasure. And thanks to its petite size, this vibrating dildo is more manageable and fantastic for newbies.

Hot Tip: Are you kicking yourself for not buying a vibrating dildo? Don't panic — you can always bring a vibrating cock ring to the party like Simpli Pleasures' Vibrating Bullet C Ring. And BOOM, problem solved.

Vibrating Bullet C Ring

Wanna Get Stretched?

If you like being stretched or completely "filled up," shoot for a larger dildo or even an inflatable one like this super-filling inflatable dildo that will satisfy your desire for maximum sensations. You could also opt for a double dildo like Simpli Pleasures' Dillio Double Trouble Dual Penetration Dildo to hit the right spot every time. 

COLT® Hefty Probe™ Inflatable Butt Plug Dillio Double Trouble

 

Note: For beginners, we recommend starting small before diving headfirst into something like our 10" King Cock Dildo.

10" Ultra Realistic Dildo With Balls

Instead, opt for a fun-sized dildo like the Le Wand Arch or the amazing Pipedream Icicles No. 53 Curved Glass Dildo so you can experiment and work your way up to the size you're after. 

Le Wand Arch Icicles No. 53

Curious About the Material? 

If you're borderline neurotic (which, who isn't?), you're probably going to want to understand what these babies are made of before you go shoving them all up in your body. This is especially true if you have a rubber allergy or prefer sex toys that are easy to clean. Although there are quite a few, the six basic materials commonly used to make dildos include: 

  • Silicone — non-toxic with a tight molecular structure meaning dildos made of this material will be silky smooth. 
  • Jelly (rubber) — this rigid material creates deliciously squishy and super flexible dildos. 
  • Hard Plastic — this material is commonly used to make firm sex toys for accurate pressure with little to no flexibility. 
  • Soft Skin — this popular material is designed to mimic the texture and softness of real skin.
  • Glass — non-porous and easy to clean, dildos made of break-resistant glass are perfect for those feening for more accurate and firm pressure during play. 
  • Steel — this super sleek material isn't only nice to look at but easy-peasy to clean since it isn't porous. 



Hot Tip: Steer clear of PVC and vinyl. These cheap materials contain phthalates, which researchers have connected to a whole slew of health issues, like asthma, obesity, and even some types of cancer.

What Are Some Ways To Use a Dildo?

Dildos are designed to penetrate all orifices, including the pussy and butt. You can even stick a dildo in your face hole if that tickles your fancy. 

With this in mind, here are a few different ways you can use a dildo:

  • Insert a dildo into your lover's pussy or butt when practicing oral. 
  • Insert a dildo into your butt while beating your meat.
  • Suction a dildo to a surface and grind against it while manually stimulating yourself.
  • Insert a dildo into a partner's ass while sucking them off or licking their clit. 
  • Insert a dildo into their mouth while you go down on them. 
  • Put a dildo in your butt and another in your pussy while playing downstairs DJ. 
  • Insert a dildo into your partner's pussy while giving them a rim job.
  • Stick a dildo in your mouth while playing with your sensitive parts.

Dildos are also really wonderful for pegging! If this is what you're after, opt for a dildo with a flared base compatible with a strap-on like the Universal Lover's Super Strap.

Lover's Super Strap

Top Tips for Dildo Play Success

Maybe you're an old pro who wants to learn some new tricks. Or perhaps you find that stuffin' your muffin just doesn't do anything for your G-spot. 

Whatever the case may be, these tips and tricks are sure to increase pleasure when doing the deed via dildo:

Find Your Zen

Set the mood and find your zen. This is super important before using your dildo for the first time because if you're feeling a bit awk or distracted, you'll quickly discover that penetration is much more of a challenge — and less enjoyable. 

Whether it's juicy porn, free erotica fiction, or something else that gets your motor going, do it. Once you're in it to win it and all hot and bothered, move forward with your dildo. 

Lube Up

Struggling to get wet? Before you start playing with your new dildo, you may need to warm up first to get your sexual juices flowing. This might mean manual stimulation along with having a sweet O or two. 

If you don't produce much natural lubrication, you'll want to lube up. Lubricants can do wonders to enhance sexual pleasure by decreasing painful friction during dildo play.

Not sure where to find a super slippery lube? Check out our huge inventory of lubricants, where you'll discover water-based lubes, silicone-based lubes, lickable lubes, and more.

Start Slowly

Before inserting the dildo, see what it feels like when you rub it on the outside of your body. In other words, use it to gently massage and stimulate your sexy bits. 

As soon as you feel comfortable and ready to ride, go ahead and penetrate yourself with the dildo, moving it ever-so-slowly in and out. How does it feel? Is the size okay? Take a moment to assess how you feel and make changes as needed.

Build a Rhythm

Feeling good about your sex toy purchase? Take the dildo play up a notch, and experiment with different speeds and rhythms. Experience the difference between slow and steady movement and fast and erratic movement. 

Discover what works best for you, and keep at it!

Practice Makes Perfect

Learning how to use a dildo to enhance sexual pleasure can take time, but as long as you keep practicing, you'll surely get the hang of it soon enough. And if you invest in a suction cup dildo like the Doc Johnson Crystal Jellies Realistic Dildo, you can get into lots of different positions and learn how to stimulate yourself in lots of fun ways! 

Crystal Jellies Ballsy Dildo

With this in mind, here are just a few of the places and positions you can explore with a suction cup dildo:

  • Stand up doggy style
  • Riding it on a chair
  • On your bed headboard
  • Against a wall
  • On your shower wall
  • Riding it on the floor

Hot Tip: Going solo with a suction cup dildo? Find a flexible one made from a gentle material like silicone instead of stainless steel, hard plastic, or glass. Not sure where to look? Check out the Avant D8 Ergo. It's super soft and fully equipped with a suction cup for hours of DIY fun.

Avant D8 - Ergo 

Double Down on Toys

Want to take your orgasm to the next level when using a dildo? Double (or triple) down on sex toys. Here are some of our favs to use with a dildo:

  • Bullet Vibrators. If you ask us, there's just about nothing better than a mini bullet vibrator during dildo play. Opt for one with multiple speeds that's waterproof for extra splish-and-splash fun. 

Rocks-Off RO-80mm Colour Me Orgasmic

Fetish Fantasy Super Suckers Trio

  • Nipple Clamps. Don't forget about this uber-powerful erogenous zone! Nipple clamps and suckers enhance erotic pleasure tenfold. Trust us on this one. 

Nipple Play® Beaded Nipple Clamps

Lelo Tor 2

Clean After Use

After playing with your dildo — or any sex toy — it's of the utmost importance to clean it thoroughly before tossing it back in your top dresser drawer. Read the directions carefully on your dildo's packaging, as cleaning processes can vary from toy to toy, and incorrect cleaning methods can cause your dildo to deteriorate sooner rather than later. 

Some dildos can be cleaned in the dishwasher for a quick rinse cycle or drop them in a hot pot of boiling water for a few minutes. If you're using soap and water to clean your dildo, you might want to opt for a special toy-friendly option like our Natural Toy Cleaner — a special toy cleaning formula made without any icky sulfates, parabens, or colorants. 

Natural Toy Cleaner

To use this triclosan-free spray, simply spritz your dildo with the cleaner, making sure not to drench it. You can let it air dry or wipe it clean with a soft cloth. Yep, it's that easy.

Keep Calm and Dildo On

And there you have it — everything you need to know to choose and use a dildo. Whether you're a total dildo newbie or no stranger to DIY play, we hope this guide answers your questions about this uber-popular sex toy. 

Just remember to go slow, use a whole lot of lube, and most importantly, have fun!

Here at Simpli Pleasures, we believe sex and play are not only a whole lot of fun and good for the mind, body, and soul but also empowering. That’s why we’ve rounded out our collection of high-quality dildos to inspire people so that they can express themselves and feel good while doing it.

 

Sources:

Where is the clitoris? | Planned Parenthood

The orgasmic history of oxytocin: Love, lust, and labor | PMC

Benefits of Sexual Activity on Psychological, Relational, and Sexual Health During the COVID-19 Breakout | PMC

Phthalates and Their Impacts on Human Health | PMC

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